The concepts around the birth already have altered substantially over the centuries. Just like all the females of the animal species, women came into this world with the instinct as well as capability of building a nesting location, as well as having a baby the natural way. It has already been written about, examined as well as viewed in films normally as primitive man’s approach, Native American way and up throughout the 19th century, females received little pain killers, or outside “influences” affecting labor.
At some point in the 20th century, midwives and medical doctors as well, began endeavoring to ease discomfort, placed women within unnatural flat, prone positions for birth; and also the Victorian modesty factors in some way became included and having a baby turned out to be a lttle bit of a torture for many ladies (behind closed doors). Perhaps as human beings began eating a lot more manufactured, processed, sugary food items, and considerably increased in girth, babies’ size wasn’t often in the right proportion to the mother, causing lengthier labors as well as suffering.
Within the early 1900s through the 1950s, it was not really uncommon for a lady to be “knocked out” or “put under” through the complete birth and wasn’t actually aware exactly what sex baby she had for hours until she “awoke.” Thank heavens for the 1960s that together with the advent of natural things, make love not war attitude, women again began thinking on their own. When they desired to try out all-natural childbirth, they spoke up and achieved it. Even when they weren’t 100% successful, things did bring back the power back again for the mother.
Right now, there’s a resurgence toward all-natural childbirth with self-hypnosis, and using a relaxed, controlled method of labor exactly where the mother partcipates in self-awareness, oneness with her child by means of mental and verbal communication, and much pain is actually eradicating in a natural way, just as the woman’s fore-mothers did.
It’s not the hypnosis approaches connected with stage performers or psychiatrists putting individuals within trances they don’t remember after a click of the fingers. It is something the expectant mother has put to use during the entire stages of pregnancy, and via positive ideas, soothing restful words and phrases, delicate breathing exercises, can be totally and fully relaxed, with as supple a body as you possibly can to aid the road to childbirth.
There should be trust in yourself, and not so much a disassociation from discomfort and surroundings, however a break-away from stigmas as well as misguided beliefs associated with giving birth. The end result will be a happier child as well as mother; a much more blissful experience, possibly employing assistance from aromatherapy along with visualizations.
At that time there were two books available, and little else besides online forums and a few blogs which no longer exist. I used the site as a way to blog about our EC journey as I discovered many fascinating things via this ancient way of connecting with my baby. I wanted to share the thrills I experienced. We did EC from when he was born, it was great fun. On the sidebar of Tribal Baby you can see a link where I share our personal experiences as a collection…
Since then, I have another son and did Elimination Communication with him from birth as well. A different journey, as he had CTEV (Talipes, or a clubfoot) and so was in a series of 12 plaster casts until he was 3 months old and then a brace 23 hours a day until he was about 1 year old and then for 12 hours a day (well, nights) until just days ago, at the end of July when he turned four. It has been a long journey also since my little boy was also diagnosed with a Global Developmental Delay and PDD-NOS, an Autism Spectrum Disorder and which requires weekly speech therapy and occupational therapy. I nearly passed out when I realised this therapy costs $2200 a term! We do thankfully get assistance from the Australian government for some of the costs. Perhaps my helpful bundle of elimination communication resources will help our family.
I recently released all my resources as an eBook for mothers interested in EC to buy for $2.99. It’s called simply “Part Time EC” as that is how everyone starts, and how many families continue with elimination communication with the busy busy lives of today.
I included the 4 bonus guides I have developed to help with aspects of practicing EC, Preparing for EC with your Baby, Baby Led Pottying, Elimination Communication and Travel and Reconnecting Tips for Potty Pauses, and my popular “7 Secrets of Elimination Communication“, which was the free online guided tour that I created to get all this started.
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A study conducted by CL Pasero and R Britt (August 1998). Managing Pain During Labor, published in the American Journal of Nursing 98:10-11, reports that indeed a painless childbirth is a reality for as many as 45,000 WOMEN EACH YEAR IN AMERICA. It follows that if those are the numbers in one country there must be millions all over the world experiencing the same thing.
When I talk about a painless childbirth, I don’t mean you will not feel anything. You’ll experience each wave as surges of incredible energy. You’ll innately know how labor comes one minute at a time, and when you focus on managing that one minute: staying in the present moment one breath at the time and one minute at the time; you’ll be able to conquer it. Childbirth is a natural event with a known positive outcome. While a labor wave is indeed intense, it lasts only one minute and then you get a break –guaranteed. When you learn to manage these waves one minute at a time, you learn that labor is very different from what you have experienced as pain in your life. Learning how to stay in the moment is the challenge.
Pain is usually what we feel when something goes wrong. It is often associated with an unknown outcome: When we break a leg, we feel pain and there is no reprieve unless we resort to painkillers. We wonder how long it will take before we can again walk normally. How long or if we will be able to go back to our regular activities. By contrast, in birth once the baby comes out the sensations of labor go away and you have a happy, amazing, loving baby snuggling in your arms.
Painlessness is a state of well-being that encompasses body, mind, and spirit. If you would like to join the growing number of women who experience a painless childbirth here’s what you have to do.
Once ingrained in your childhood, most behavior and beliefs becomes largely automatic; you experience a stimulus or trigger and react without conscious thought. That is why trying to change behavior, emotions or improve physical performance and appearance (like losing weight) by using only your self-will often fails. It has nothing to do with your intentions, or your commitment to the change, or your will power: our minds just don’t work that way. If your mental and spiritual programming is based upon fear and worry, if your survival instinct is constantly is a flight or flight state, there is only so much you can do on your own to manage your state during labor and delivery. The waves of labor will take over your conscious state and you unconscious will run wild with whatever information you have given it.
To prepare you need to uncover the roots of your behaviors and beliefs, discover how and when they trigger you, and discard that which no longer works. You need to learn conscious, mindful, and present living; you must heal and rebirth a new self rooted in self-love and self-acceptance. How do you do that? It takes practice.
If you want to win a marathon you must train, if you want to have a painless childbirth you also must train your body, mind and spirit. In order to change your behavior, your belief system and your expectations you need to do some serious soul searching. I cannot give you all the tools in this article, I have written a three hundred page book called Painless Childbirth: An Empowering Journey Through Pregnancy and Birth, Cumberland House Publishing 2008, about this particular subject and training, but let me tell you that it can be done. Yoga, meditation and working with a hypnotherapist is a great start.
How you prepare you mind and body is the singular most important factor for the successful outcome of your birth. Far too often our joy and excitement are over-shadowed by fear, uncertainty and questionable self-confidence. With the help of a professional Hypnotherapist you can reach and embrace your ability to change your state of fear, worry and stress into calm and self-confidence. When your mind, body, and soul are in harmony, you have essentially created the perfect balance for physical comfort, mental relaxation and emotional confidence. Relaxation, achieved through self-hypnosis techniques, releases the fear and tensions that cause long labor. Therefore, pain is lessened and in some cases even eliminated. This is not to say that you will not experience any sensations during labor and delivery, this is to say that hypnosis can redirect your experience of the intensity of labor from an unmanageable sensation, one you feel out of control and victimized by it to something you can comfortably manage.
Fear creates tension and tension creates pain. Fear also makes the body release adrenalin, which contracts all muscles preparing for the ‘fight or flight’ reaction, and catecholamine which is a hormone that closes the cervix in response to fear. In essence the body recognizes fear as a dangerous situation and tells the body to stop labor and flee. Why do we keep talking about fear? You logical mind might be looking at the birthing of your baby not as a fearful event (beforehand) and you feel you really have to “conscious” fear for the all process. You really think you can be in control and might not really need anything to manage the waves of labor, certainly none of this soul searching especially right now while you are pregnant. But let me tell you what happens. Once the surges of labor arrive, your conscious and logical mind, your self-control as you know it ,takes a back seat, and your primordial brain, also called reptilian brain takes over. This part of our brain comes in when we are in exceptional states, especially when we perceive them as life or death situations. It is the one responsible for the many times you have done things you that have surprised you in the past. It has been known to be responsible to give enough strength to a mom to be able to raise a car singlehandedly, to save her child. It brings in at times an amazing strength, and at times it simply reacts and runs for the survival. YOUR survival. So if this part of your brain perceives labor as crises it will concentrate on stopping all sensations and motion toward the delivery. Often just walking into a hospital, a place your primordial brain equates with pain and suffering, is enough to trigger it.
“We need to always remember that mothers who are afraid tend to secrete the hormones that delay or inhibit birth. This is true of all mammals and is part of nature’s design. Those who are not terrified are more likely to secrete in abundance the hormones that make labor and birth easier and less painful-sometimes even pleasurable.”Ina May Gaskin, Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth
Using hypnosis before labor helps you understand where your fears lay, what your beliefs system are around your own capacity to birth your baby and to be a mother, and what events of the past, including your own birth, are coloring your reactions of today. During labor hypnosis can help you as you recall what you have learned during your sessions, to achieve a state of total relaxation, and this can transform you labor into a very pleasant and sacred experience. The negative cycle (OMG what is happening to me I cannot handle this) is replaced with confidence, calm, and comfort (my baby and I are working hard to bring a new life into this world.)
Yes and no. With the help of self-hypnosis audio tapes or CDs, you can train yourself to reach a state of relaxation that can and will help you achieve the birthing experience you desire. But if your beliefs systems and fears are deeply rooted you might need the help of a professional. When you are willing to stay focus and use the nine months of pregnancy as an opportunity to heal yourself and prepare yourself, you can achieve a painless experience.
In order to achieve our goals, we need to empower ourselves and be ready to change some aspects of our being to make room for another expression of G-d, or our individual notion of a power greater than ourselves. Your role as a mother often will depend on what is imprinted in your subconscious; what others have told you about who you are and what you should expect; the role your own mother played in your life; and the information you have gotten from friends, relatives, books and/or your care provider. Our subconscious mind directly influences what we think, feel, and the choices we make. It is up to you to decide: you can live by what others say you should be/do/ or think; or you can take full responsibility for your state.
When I was pregnant with my son, I experienced my soul slowly recognizing its higher potentiality as this child was forming inside my womb. It was exciting to feel the power of creation within me. I learned to relate to him as I would relate to an angel. I began to imagining a relationship with where I would often ask myself, “What are my actions, beliefs, thoughts and attitudes teaching my child right now?” I resolved to go on a journey that would not only birth a better human being, but birth a new self.
Being a creator of a human life awakened in me the awareness that my body was a vessel for the miracle of creation. Eastern religions speak of the Divine not as an entity outside of us, but as something we are a part of, something that is closer than our hands and feet, nearer than our breath. This abstract concept became very real as I felt my baby growing into my belly, and I felt his touch and movements. Spiritual awakening was instrumental in my ability to experience a painless childbirth. The nine months of gestation became a unique opportunity to learn the secret of conscious living
When I speak of spiritual awakening and close contact with my Higher Power, I am referring to a Higher Love that encompasses all. Sometimes I call it God, or Higher Power, or Mother Nature. I encourage you to find your personal connection with a power greater than yourself. Being spiritually enlightened and leading a conscious life can be done as a Christian, Jew, Muslim, Hindu, Buddhist, and even an agnostic. What you call it, how you refer to it, how you pray to it does not matter. What matters is that you feel the power of creation within you and become one with this power.
Pregnancy is a great opportunity to deepen your practice, meet with your higher self and together bring a new life into this world, painlessly, joyfully and effortlessly, as Mother Nature intended.
Giuditta Tornetta is a birth and postpartum doula, a lactation educator, a hypnotherapist and author of the bestsellers book: Painless Childbirth: An Empowering Journey Through Pregnancy and Birth She has a private practice in Marina del Rey. She can be reached through her website at www.JoyInBirthing.com
The actual notions about giving birth already have altered significantly over the hundreds of years. Like each of the females of the animal varieties, woman came into this world with the instinct as well as capacity for building a nesting location, and also giving birth the natural way. It has already been written about, studied and viewed in films often as primitive man’s method, Indigenous American way and up throughout the 19th century, ladies received very little pain killers, or outside “influences” impacting on childbirth.
At some point in the Twentieth century, midwives and doctors alike, started working to alleviate pain and discomfort, put women in unnatural flat, prone positions for birth; as well as the Victorian modesty issues in some way became included and giving birth grew to become a lttle bit of a torture for some women (behind shut doors). Perhaps as humankind began eating much more manufactured, highly processed, sugary food items, and increased in width, babies’ measurement was not generally in the right ratio to the mother, causing lengthier labors and also agony.
Within the early 1900s through the 1950s, it was definitely not uncommon for a female to be “knocked out” or “put under” through the complete delivery and wasn’t quite possibly mindful just what sex baby she had for several hours until eventually she “awoke.” Thank goodness for the 1960s that with all the creation of all-natural things, make love not war attitude, ladies once again started out thinking for themselves. If they wished to try natural childbirth, they spoke up and did it. Even when they weren’t 100% successful, things did give back the power back to the mother.
Right now, there’s a resurgence to natural childbirth by using self-hypnosis, and using a calm, managed technique of labor exactly where the mother partcipates in self-awareness, oneness with her child via mental and spoken communication, and much discomfort is eliminating naturally, just as the woman’s fore-mothers did.
Birth Hypnosis is not the hypnosis strategies associated with stage entertainers and psychiatrists putting men and women in trances they do not remember following a snap of the fingers. It’s some thing the expectant mother has put to use during the stages of pregnancy, and by way of positive recommendations, stress-free restful words, delicate breathing exercises, can be entirely and completely relaxed, with a supple a body as you possibly can to help the baby travel the road to birth.
There must be trust in yourself, and not so much a disassociation from discomfort and surroundings, however a break-away from stigmas and myths associated with birth. The actual finish result will be a more happy baby as well as new mother; a much more joyful encounter, possibly employing help from aromatherapy along with visualizations.
Our baby was born without that over riding sense of fear which characterises talk of babies. I used relaxation, visualisation and a positive approach. In this way I managed to have a lack of fear of birth – I had an uncomfortable work out – after all, passing a human being through our pelvis IS uncomfortable – we don’t do it every day! I didn’t have ‘pain’ until they stuck in a catheter afterwards – YOUCH! It was very hard work, however, I was quite sweaty!! Would I do it this way again? Absolutely, I will prepare the same way next time.
This section is about using resources of relaxation, visualisation, positive thinking and avoiding negative information, thinking and stories to achieve as close as possible to a pleasant birth.
Using hypnosis is a mind-led approach to having a baby, rather than the usual fear-led approach programmed into us by culture, media and years of ‘horror’ stories!
I used a program called “hypbirth” People are obviously curious about it, so I have written this section.
l also hope to provide an insight into the journey of information I explored as I researched about this concept – milestones of info that I found useful or helpful as I prepared using this idea, plus info I found later that would have helped me even further had I known of it. They are a starting point for finding out more information if you find it an intriguing idea, on your own unique journey.