Baby led solids is basically an ongoing exercise in trust. It involves a shift in approach- from being the person ‘managing’ the baby’s eating, to one of trusting the baby’s instincts about what they eat, when and how much. Considering the burgeoning levels of obesity, any way we can support baby’s natural appetite awareness, starting by breastfeeding to the baby’s needs (feeding to cue), seems the logical way to go. Mother nature has provided a pretty good system.
Following a baby-led approach turns out to be reassuring, a personal challenge and enlightening all at once. I have at times basically had to force myself to accept Maven’s natural awareness of his appetite, and this has reinforced to me the importance, and safety net, of sustained breastfeeding. As he gains so much of his nutritional needs from breast milk, he needs to only ‘top up’ his diet with his whimsical toddler eating patterns. Most reassuring really, not having to feel I should be coaxing him to eat all day. Instead, all that is needed is to offer a wide range of options over the week.
I have found it quite interesting to see that he really ate so little until a mental leap at seventeen months when he began eating heaps. It is really easy, and a slow way to introduce baby/ toddler to ‘solids’ – as it involves ‘self feeding’ , there is minimal spoon feeding. Maven has very slowly increased his intake – often he ate nothing. I provide a selection of this and that from what we are eating, and he eats it or tastes it, after a while starts playing with it – this was the sign he’d had enough.
It is a slow process, and I have found I have to learn to practise really trusting his awareness of his needs, and so resist the urge to feed him “have a bit of this, a bit more”. I have and am learning about social pressure to ‘get him to eat’ when it isn’t really what he wants, so again the trust factor comes back – he knows what he needs, and self manages his eating rather than me having the responsibility for ‘feeding’ him – instead I am responsible for offering variety, he is responsible for the eating part!
NB: If you are bottle feeding, or have a family history of food intolerance, allergy or digestive problems, DO discuss this method of introducing solids with your health advisers before embarking on it.
Finally, DO enjoy watching your baby learn about food and develop his skills with his hands and mouth in the process!
Source: baby led intro to solids guidelines
His instincts – he wouldn’t eat it if it his system wasn’t ready for it
I liked the concept that if he couldn’t physically eat it, it was too early for his system. I found it interesting that if I was concerned about giving him something, it was too soon – if I wasn’t , it was okay. Trusting the instincts again. I certainly felt like six months was too soon for him, eight months was more like it for him. From the context of thinking what early peoples did, that makes sense – no pureeing tools really, some pre-chewing, some mashing of foods, but basically if it wasn’t suitable baby couldn’t eat it, so they breastfed for a full length of time, which is the 4 – 7 years thought to be ‘physiological’ breastfeeding duration (Ironically (or not) this is when the ‘milk teeth’ begin to be replaced, too!).
An enlightening read is “A Natural Age of Weaning”
As he has grown molars, he is now eating differently. As each type of teeth emerged he has eaten differently – more variety, more volume of foods, though always breast milk is the base.
Breast milk first and always a milk ‘chaser’- his insurance policy
I always felt compelled to breast feed him before and after, and have assumed this is a natural instinct to protect his system from any ‘bugs’ in the food! As breast milk is packed with white blood cells, antibodies, antifungals, antimicrobials, all sorts of immune building elements, (there is said to be a million white blood cells in each DROP of breast milk), it is pretty certain where this instinct comes from! He still always has a bit of milk after food at two years of age, just as he did when he started. Some time about 18 months he would eat before having breast milk, rather than before and after as he had done earlier.
Solids made no difference to his sleeping patterns – except perhaps to be more fidgety after meat at night – I recently learnt that meat proteins contain an enzyme that fires up the brain and stuffs up sleep. Must experiment with that one for myself!!!!
I had iron issues, so wanted to avoid that with Maven, hence waiting into the 7-9 month window for introducing solids – evidence shows this will mean he has higher iron levels as a child. He ate so little anyway…
A useful strategy I decided to adopt from the start was to always offer a bit of all the suitable foods we were eating – regardless of whether he ate it or not. For instance we might have chicken schnitzel and mash, peas, carrots and gravy – Maven would have some chicken, mash, a few peas and a bit of soft carrot. He would eat – the chicken!!
Another time, he’d eat the chicken and some mash, then one day start eating the carrot! I was working from my theory that although he didn’t eat it, it was always there, so it seemed ‘normal’ food to him, – familiar. That way, one day he’d just eat it, rather than not offering it as he didn’t seem to ever eat it, then showing him this ‘new’ food, probably when he is a toddler in the throws of ‘neophobia’ – and “NO!” being the result! It has been a great strategy, though I tend to ‘clean up’ his food, which was fine in the stages before about eighteen months when I would just pull some food off my plate to feed him, and thought, well if he doesn’t eat it now, he can have it later as breast milk! Now that he has his own food (though I tend to still give him food off my plate) all this picking is probably not too good for the waistline! LOL I read somewhere that this sort of ‘picking’ can add four kilos (8 pounds) over a year! Yikes!
I was researching the importance of delaying until at least 6 months for all those reasons related to their ‘open gut’ at kellymom, and meanwhile wondering what early cultures did, researching that – it seems the fossil record shows that babies through history were exclusively fed breast milk between six months and a year, or longer. (source – our babies, ourselves) Research is showing up to two years is fine! I was suspicious of the 4 months exclusive breastfeeding directive from the ‘new mums’ class I attended, (already knowing six months was the minimum) as the information about this, along with some carefully worded scare tactics, was directly from a baby food company (a nice shiny brochure) who conveniently had food to sell me. As one who is hot on avoiding being manipulated by shiny advertising aiming to sell me something, and knowing the risks of too-early solids, I was surprised to be the only one who seemed to think the pamphlets were a conflict of interest, and would not take one home!
I decided to trust in the liquid gold of breast milk until he showed a preference otherwise – when he needed more than it provided, he would eat, which I assumed would naturally happen! – ‘Food is for fun until they are one’ was the mantra I said to myself as he ate sooo sporadically ‘a taste a week from when he first ‘ate’ (swallowed) at about eight months, then a bit every few days, then a bit each day – about a teaspoon until eleven months, then about a tablespoon here and there until fourteen months, then he began eating each ‘meal’, then eating (wanting) a lot at 17 months, but not always. If I didn’t feel like feeding him food, the boob was enough, he went through stages of boob only for days, and always when teething no food, this was fascinating to observe. It becomes really obvious when he does want to eat ‘he’ll be crystal clear about it! Towards two he ate differently again, as his back molars came in, yet there are certain things he still doesn’t eat, green leafy veg for example. I have read (will try to find the link) that such are the last things our digestion is capable of dealing with, due to the fibres.
His first food was a bit of egg yolk off my finger. He loved eating fatty stuff (animal fats) like the fat from cooked meats I waited with all those ‘usual suspects’ – dairy, wheat, egg white etc until after one, started with cheese. He had yoghurt earlier, as it is altered. He had cheese at eleven months ok – I read the lactose is changed in that as well. It was always at his interest, so lots of titbits on his tray, or off our plates, or on his ‘pick platter’
– I’d do things like fill an egg carton with bits of stuff for him to pick over, or put bits on a tray on the floor – we’d eat together.
– Or put bits of what we were eating all over his tray to taste (plus whatever else was on hand)
– crackers and dips were a toddler hit. Hummous is a winner!
– I’d steady the spoon for soups or yoghurt (all he had for a while was chicken home made stocks. All goodies in it)
– Soon enough he was spoon feeding himself without spilling it all! I’d fill the spoon, hold it near his hand, but steady the end – if that makes sense. Now he likes to feed me!
– I found it interesting that when I felt the urge to ‘get food into him’ he wasn’t interested, and I’d realise it was my expectation (based on some cultural pressure, which I’d stop!) He was fine managing his own eating…
– I grated veg into bolognaise – he loved picking up the bits off his tray. – He loves fried rice (I think the soy sauce (over one)) He loves Chickeny Rice – rice with chicken fat in it! I put in grated cheese – loves it, whatever vegies are in the eating…
– Fruit I cut up big bits of apple or orange, or peel it a bit and give him the whole thing – he’d eat heaps that way.
– funny, but he hated banana, avocado – those early food choices liked by many babies? Never ate the cereals, but I skipped them – wheat sensitivity. Skipped the iron fortified cereals – there is evidence they hinder iron absorption from breast milk once introduced.
– He ate from our plates until around 15 months, when we started giving him his own at times.
– for lunch we would often (and still do) have a ‘pick platter’ – a round tray with all sorts of tempting morsels on there, that we would both eat together. Great fun putting it together, and we would pick over it during the day as well.
I also found this page useful for ideas, though I don’t consider Maven is a picky eater, but that he has normal eating patterns.
Feeding toddlers: 17 tips for picky eaters www.askdrsears.com/html/3/T030800.asp
This ‘pickiness’ is called “Neophobia“, and is an evolutionary mechanism to protect the toddler from unknown, possibly dangerous foods. Hence, having him eat from our plates is a sure-fire way he will eat, even if he has the same foods on his plate – ours is obviously ‘safe’ as we are eating it, and so he naturally wants to do this. I wonder how long it will go on? I understand ‘neophobia’ (fear of the new!) peaks at around 2.5 years.
I was so worried about interrupting breastfeeding, that a baby-led approach was perfect. I observed / learnt from others that current ‘advice’ on when and how much solids is designed to achieve weaning by twelve months (usually earlier is the result) So much food is given to babies they have no space for milk, and then all the risks of early weaning, such as the constant runny nose from a lack of immune system support. I wasn’t interested in dealing with a needlessly sick child, so this has worked out well for us. I knew 10-14 months was a risk stage for early weaning, as they are so busy, so I was careful to support his feeing as a priority.
That age range is also a common time for ‘nursing strikes’ or ‘breast refusal’ (also, not really so curiously, ‘potty pauses! ‘), so knowing about managing these was helpful. A useful article is this one from the Natural Child Project, ‘Is my baby on a nursing strike?’
– As soon as anything effected the other end, I cut it out, this meant I wanted to keep it all soft out the other end so that he didn’t have to strain – so the baby-led eating managed that, as he would get bored of eating / have had enough after a really short time, and this seemed to correlate to what his system needed. We’d say he ate like a fish – whatever he could eat in 5 minutes, as that is what he seemed to do! As soon as he started playing with it, that was the end of his meal – he’d had enough. Of course, one of the benefits we get with EC is the immediate feedback if something doesn’t agree with their system yet – there will be a pretty quick ‘elimination’ response if his system wasn’t ready for it. For example, the pineapple story (Read a description of Maven’s reaction when pineapple was introduced at around 12 months)
– I’ve noticed that as I tend to give him the same foods for a few days, this helps him adjust – when we are having odd foods and lots of foods, he’ll have more accidents, if similar, better signalling and continence. As his system hs matured, he has eaten more variety. It is interesting to note that certain digestive enzymes are not produced in their systems until around eighteen – twenty four months, and it was around eighteen months that he became fully independent for poos (before then I would hold him over a toilet), and also, what he was eating no longer made much difference to his timing. Basically it became like regular stuff about then. (and goodness I’m glad I don’t have to wipe it off his body.)
Kellymom.com such as “Solid foods and the breastfed baby / toddler”
World Health Organisation such as “Exclusive Breastfeeding for six months”
ABA such as “Just breast milk, thanks!”
“Guidelines for implementing a baby-led approach to the introduction of solid foods”
Wikipedia: Baby Led Weaning entry.
A bunch of ABA mums use a baby-led solids approach.
Baby Led weaning Blog http://babyledweaning.com/
Baby Led Weaning Yahoo Group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/B-LW/